I share a set of (now 16 yr. old) twin sons
with the EK.
The EK portrays himself as a “Fundamentalist Christian” BUT
behaves in ways that completely contradict this claim. He uses his religion
only when it is to his advantage…but quickly justifies his “less than
Christian” behavior by telling others this HIS situation is “DIFFERENT” and
that I am “SO CRAZY and SO EVIL that I FORCE him fight ME like a demon”. HE
would be willing to “JUST GET ALONG” and he just “does NOT UNDERSTAND WHY I am
so nasty and vengeful” and also does NOT UNDERSTAND “How I could put our son’s
THROUGH THIS”
….OH…of COURSE…it is because “I lost him and I am jealous and if I
had treated him right he would NEVER have thought of leaving” after all he
“Gave it his ALL for 18 years but I was simply beyond HELP and he had no choice
but to move on and create a new home for our POOR CHILDREN…a REAL HOME”.
You see…as he told our sons last year…
”He DID
THIS FOR THEM!”
When the one who was more verbal called “BS”
and asked EXACTLY HOW this has “benefited THEM?!” he was told,
“Someday you
will understand…you are too young to have this discussion…PARTICULARLY about
your MOTHER. You just go ahead and love her and just wait…you will eventually
see…that I did this for YOU! One day you will see how you’re Mother REALLY IS
and you will understand that this was NOT MY FAULT”
NOW HERE IS THE KICKER!
The EK SO CONVINCED a “Church” full of people that
I am, not ONLY INSANE…but that I neglect my children and that I am the DEVIL
INCARNATE…that he managed to get the PASTOR to state that he
“Needed to move on
because he needed a “Godly” mate in order to become what GOD intends him to be!
HE GOT THE PASTOR TO TELL HIM THAT HE NEEDED TO LEAVE ME!
HE did not decide at
ALL, you see, the PASTOR ADVISED HIM to give up….
HE IS IN THE CLEAR!
NOT ONLY
the PASTOR…but the PASTOR is saying that GOD HIMSELF wanted the EK to discard me
so that he could MOLD him into what GOD WANTS HIM TO BE.
LOL!
The EK does not BELIEVE in GOD (unless he believes that HE IS God)!
I have seen him
put this “mask” on THREE TIMES when he needed it to achieve his goal…. and then remove it just as suddenly.
THAT is
why I do not have the aversion to Christianity that some others feel.
I do NOT blame all religion or all Christians for the EK's DECEIT.
IMHO, it would
be like dressing up a PIG as a COW and then claiming that all COWS roll in the mud…
when you were ACTUALLY looking at a PIG all along!
TOTALLY ILLOGICAL to me!
Such is the delusion of a text book, covert,
charming, Sociopathic Narcissist!
Do you see what he has done there?
REALLY
QUIT CLEVER…and EVIL….
He has, first, blamed ME for this issue….that
worked on the outsiders…but not on those who SAW WHAT HAPPENED…such as my
children.
Next he switched to saying it was my “mental instability” that he could no
longer deal with it and he told my children that, though they might not see it
NOW…they surely would!
Still not HIS FAULT!
Then he tried to convince the children that
THEY, somehow…or Rather his DESIRE to PROTECT them…was the cause of the
break-up.
Got to give the EK CREDIT…that MIGHT have worked if the kids had been
a little younger and had not seen him “drop his mask”!
THEN, finally, he was ACTUALLY able to get a
PASTOR (of questionable repute and with no TRAINING at all) but who still bills
himself as a PASTOR and the leader of a “Church” to VERBALLY STATE that he had
NO CHOICE but to discard me”. He convinced the congregation…with the support of
the Pastor (whose boots the EK licked and whose words the EK fawned over) and the new (very well respected) Victim who
is a long standing member of the congregation….that I tried to have him
killed…that I am crazy…that I have threatened him…etc. etc.
Later, if needed…he can tell our children that
he was “led astray” by a bad Pastor and he is ...
STILL NOT AT FAULT!
He was SET! When he FORCED our sons to go with him
to the CHURCH…their discomfort was NOT due to the fact that they were
witnessing totally hypocritical and ridiculous behavior by their FATHER…NOT
that they had been FORCED to be there…NOT that they were EMBARRASSED by his
behavior and utterly MORTIFIED at the fact they had been DRAWN INTO his two
year affair by being taken on DATES with this woman…and believing she was “just
a church friend”… HAD NEVER MENTIONED THIS TO ME.
OF COURSE NOT!
Their “obvious discomfort” was a sign that I
WAS “filling their head full of lies”….THAT I am “ungodly” “mentally disturbed”
and that I WAS “mistreating them and trying to alienate him from the LOVING
CHRISTIAN MAN”.
They RALLIED around him!
Several offered to TESTIFY in court that I was
an UNFIT mother based on HIS LIES. MOST had, not only, never MET ME…but they
never even talked to MY SONs.
Chief offering to testify was the PASTOR!
Now, in order to make the claim that he
believed, and had witnessed, that I was “unfit” he would have HAD TO SWEAR ON A
BIBLE UNDER OATH TO something that he KNEW that he NEVER SAW!
Even if he was
CONVINCED it was true…to say he witnessed it was a BOLD FACED LIE….because I
had been in his presence for 10 minutes in TOTAL.
The EK is TRULY, masterful at deceit and can
convince others of NEARLY ANYTHING!
THE EK HAD his POWER…
.
Because not only HE said he was right…
not only
his new victim and his crazy, enabling, family…
NOT ONLY THE PASTOR and congregation of his “Church”….
GOD HIMSELF KNEW that I was simply “UNACCEPTABLE”
and deserved what was to come.
I DESERVED to be TOTALLY DESTROYED…
and the EK PROMISED to PERSONALLY see that I
WAS destroyed!
The EK may be a clever one to deceive people such as his friends, lawyers and Judges, but we know that one day there is One that he and ourselves will stand before that we will not be able to hide even our intentions. Not all of those who say, "Lord Lord will be named in the Book of Life. I have so much to answer for and Praise our Lord that Christ came as a Living sacrifice to forgive my sins...
ReplyDeleteCertainly true...to forgive our sins that we are TRULY sorry for and OWN...not likely in the case of the EK!
DeleteI would like to add a GREAT BIG "HELLO!" to the EK who follows everything I write with SUCH OBSESSIVE INTEREST...THAT is one thing he never lacked...particularly when he is aware that it is about HIM!
DeleteWhat does the abbreviation EK stand for?
DeleteAnonymity requires that I not disclose that...just suffice it to say that it is a perfect description of my abuser! LOL!
DeleteI don't understand how their conscience never catches up with them. Do they never, late at night, alone in the dark EVER feel any sort of conviction of sin??! I know I am as capable of hateful acts as anyone, and I've proven it plenty of times. But I feel tremendous remorse and regret. Even when married to a narcissist, there is plenty of blame for both partners. Neither of us is perfect, and I wish I could go back and do better. But I still fall into the mistake of thinking he sees his fault too, and he always proves me wrong on that assumption.
ReplyDeleteNo, M She, I do not believe they do. A truly disordered narcissist/sociopath is (IMHO) completely INCAPABLE of believing that they are not JUSTIFIED in doing ANYTHING THEY DO. They TRULY BELIEVE (even though delusionally) that God Himself condones their actions....if they can believe in God at all...which I doubt. They are very apt to point out the sins of others but they feel UNIQUELY allowed to do whatever they feel is going to best serve them. THAT is why I doubt that they truly believe in God at all.
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