PROSOCIAL NARCOPATHS ARE VERY DANGEROUS....even the words "prosocial narcopath" seems like a contradiction, since "prosocial" means "voluntary behavior intended to benefit another", behavior that "benefit[s] other people or society as a whole, "such as helping, sharing, donating, co-operating, and volunteering." Obeying the rules and conforming to socially accepted behaviors." That very definition runs counter to the narcopathic personality. BUT, think of Bernie Madoff, who defrauded people of $50 Billion, but had a charitable foundation and SEEMED prosocial in his behavor. Religious narcissist are often apparently prosocial.
Prosocial narcopaths often fly under the radar because they are are able to behave mostly within the expectations of their society, and they appear to live normal lives. Prosocial psychopaths are very charming, but they still lack empathy and remorse, and can cause emotional and financial damage in your life if you allow them to get too close, yet they are able to FAKE empathy or remorse, and PRETEND to be prosocial.
They pretend to "love you", since they fake emotional attachment if it serves their interests, but, in reality, they are cruel and manipulative and are more likely to engage in destructive behaviour with absolutely no remorse, because they are confident of their ability to get away with it. Many of them know that who they really are is not acceptable to society, hence their having developed good acting skills to fool everyone into believing they are good people.
This is my husband. Gives, helps the employees he likes, works with Habitat for Humanity, etc. He is the first to show up at a disaster, funeral, accident. Was a pastor for a period of time. Now that he is in business he uses the good things he does to gain respect and more business. For example he will tell a church board how other "dishonest" contractors will cheat them. The church will then trust and hire him for their big projects and pass on word of the honest contractor to other churches. But he will cheat a business using the same tricks he "truthfully" exposes to the churches. Money in the bank with truthfulness and charity as ploys. For three years he planned to discard me and all the while telling me daily (in a rather unconvincing manner) that he loved me.
ReplyDeleteThis is my ex husband to a "T" He is now on "soulmate" number 3 w new baby. He left me and our twin boys for his younger, and even more naieve than me, employee. He portrayed a man of integrity and honesty. Boy! Do he have me fooled!! I can look back now and see all his fake life. He was and is NOT real. He charmed me, built me up sooo high and then continued to tear me down jab by jab til I thought I was the crazy one. Manipulation, deceitful lies, betrayal, $66,000 credit card debt at %33 interest, all unbeknownst to me and no proof as to what the charges were. While traveling for business he Charmed and fell in love w a 20yr old bartender in Russia within 5 hrs, fell in love a 20yr old Indonesian girl in one week and those are the ones that I know of and could be many more within our 13 yr marriage. Please if u are involved w a narcopath read and reasearch as much as possible to know red flags and run like hell never looking back. Their mind games are more dangerous than u can imagine and healing from this abuse can be a life time. I pray for my boys to know the difference and pray for his young wife bc one day she won't know what hit her. I was her and one day she will be me! He only loves himself and never loved me. Living the storybook fairytale and addicoto porn and no empathy for others.
ReplyDeleteSeriously though I am learning so much about my X and on the outside everything seems perfect it what went on behind closed doors. I don't speak of . Why and how did I get sucked into the lies .. last straw when he started dating someone 29 years younger then himself.
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In the same boat just found out hes moving in with a woman 30 years younger. He was seeing her while still with me...announcing on FB that hes in a new relationship while we were in the Bahamas. He proceeded to create a situation to discard me while on that trip so he could look innocent. I feel kinda sorry for this young naive girl as she has no clue what she signed up for. He seems altruistic in his charity work but it's all fake to uphold this false self. The charity is for sex trafficking victims ...I wouldn't put anything past this soulless excuse of a being.
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