5 BIG RED FLAGS YOU MIGHT MISS...

HOT BUTTON ISSUES WHEN MEETING SOMEONE NEW....you may have read the signs someone is a narcissist, but let me tell you a few things that can be a HUGE red flag....from my experience and the experience of others.

1. Overt the top with religiousness....especially if they know or believe you are religious or spiritual. The idea is that being religious, or "Godly" means they are particularly trustworthy and moral. Oh, how I wish that were true. My NarcX simply found out my religious views and "mirrored" them back to me. Be careful of this one, even if the person regularly attends services. DO NOT assume that they are sincere, even if they have the support of their religious leader or congregation. Narcissists often do.

2. The person goes out of their way to describe themselves as being the embodiment of virtue. Look, we all have flaws and faults. Worse, the person tells YOU that you are perfect. No, you aren't, and you know that. This is typical of the "idealization phase" of the narcissistic relationship, in which the love bombing occurs.

3. They claim to have advanced educational degrees or extraordinary accomplishments...they are an engineer...they were a Navy seal and won heroic medals....they know important people...etc. My wife made me show her my degree, my transcripts, my military records, and the like...and this is very smart, and exactly what she should have done. This is a "no excuses" situation...put up, or shut up. I wasn't offended and no good person will be because they understand the reason for the request.

4. They claim they are accomplished professionals. Narcopaths can go to extraordinary measures to make it seem as though they are exactly that, and generally, they will say they are in a high paying profession. Once narc who said he was the president of a corporation actually took the woman into his office on the weekend...except the was the janitor. One man who wore a physicians white coat and drove an expensive car, took the victim to his beautiful home, except he was the keeper and maintenance person for the doctor, not the doctor.

5. They have a tragic past. They are widows or widowers, or the victim of a horrible, lying, cheating ex...they are so hurt, so broken, that they virtually beg to be rescued and mended. Except it isn't true, but it's a highly effective strategy.

How about you? What have you noticed as BIG RED FLAGS that you may be with a narcissist? Let us know, below.