WHEN THE NARCISSIST KNOWS THEY'VE GOT YOU, THE MASK COMES OFF.....it may be right after the wedding, or it maybe after they've moved in and you believe that you are on the way to getting married, or, in my case, it was when my NarcX wife was very pregnant, and especially after the birth of our first child.
With my now wife, it was when she and her NarcX were married and bought their first home. In any case, when the narcissist knows you are totally "all in", that's when the abuse begins, and then, it picks up steam, getting worse the longer you are with the narcissist. However, the narc knows how to produce a trauma bond...but mixing good times in with the bad, by off and on giving you a "dose" of love bombing, just enough to keep you hooked.
As this goes on, this intermittent reinforcement/abuse cycle keeps you walking on egg shells, so you constantly yearn for the narcissist's approval, and at that point, it becomes an addiction to the process and to the abuser, which survives the discard and sets you up for the next phase: the hoover. It's all tactics to the narcissist, not love.
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