WORDS YOU SHOULD KNOW: WORD SALAD

Word salad is a tactic by the narcissist where the N uses a steam of disconnected words and ideas that are intended to fill your mind with nonsense and keep you occupied trying to figure out what the N is talking about...it's a form of diversion, a conversation stopper.

Word salad is a part of narc speak...the form of talking used by narcissist to redefine words, to baffle, confuse, and control others.    Words salad works just exactly because you can find a way to answer it.

It goes along well with other forms of diversion, like:

1.  circular conversations.

2. Repeating the same thing again and again to drive you crazy.

3. Condescending answers or smearing and attacking.

4. Projection (accusing you of what the N is doing).

5. Playing the victim.

6. Making excuses.

7.  Lying.

The point of using all these together with word salad...a mish mash of disconnected ideas and words....is to give you a mystified sense of "what the heck just happened?".

Now, here's the most important point....this is done INTENTIONALLY.  It's a manipulation, not actually random.  It's a tactic.  And, as a consequence, it shows that the narcissist always wants CONTROL you and control conversations, not to resolve problems.  You will not resolve anything with a narcissist.  So, you have to ask yourself...can you live with that?