Narcissists imagine
themselves superior to you, and everyone else for that matter. They
believe they are smart enough to fool anyone and get away with it.
It's an ego thing..... they certainly don't want to see themselves as
equal to you.
Narcissists are all about
power and control over you and your perceptions, which they need in
order to defend their false persona. As a result, the narcissist is
in a never ending struggle for the “top position” in any
relationship, what I call “being top dog”. When dogs are in a
group, the most dominant dog will pin down any dog that's a threat to
it's position as pack leader. The narcissist does “top dog”
constantly.
Consequently, there is
always an under current in any interaction with a narcissist in the
here and now....a tussle for control and “power over”, and the
narcissist's tools for winning are managing your impression of the
narcissist, manipulation, jockeying for power, abuse, and crazy
making, and now, here's the key....ALL THIS IS DONE IN ORDER TO
MAINTAIN SUPPLY, and supply depends on your believing in the reality
that is their false persona.
When you see though the
games and strategies, the abuse and control, you begin to see the
narcissist as they really are, and that's EXACTLY what all this
struggle is meant to prevent. To the narcissist, that's the worst
possible outcome. When you see the truth, the narcissist is not only
not better than you, but far, far worse...ugly, abusive, and
manipulative, and rather pathetic. The narcissist is no longer top
dog, the truth is clear, and that's intolerable.
The narcissist will not
surrender, however. The narcissist will fight back. You see the
narcissist for what they are, so you are the hated enemy. You speak
the truth, they must call you a liar and crazy...you must be
destroyed. To the narcissist, this is a life and death struggle,
because there is no real self, only the self they see reflected by
others. Once they know you know, they hate you with a venom you've
never seen before.
However, you know that the
narcissist is a pathetic shell of a human being, expending enormous
energy defending a lie, who is in a never ending struggle against the
truth, and willing to do any evil to accomplish their goals. They
have a deep darkness of the soul, and their anger is directed at you,
for shining the light into that darkness and finding an empty room.
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